The year had brought its share of changes and transitions for us. So on New Year’s Eve, we were just happy to be “still standing” and to relax in the mellow mood that often prevails on the last days of the year.
Living in a new city, we did not have any special plan. So we decided to have a late dinner at a chain diner where we like the shrimp alfredo noodles.
I looked around me in the restaurant, and saw the different configurations of diners who did not want to cook, or who wanted to go out on New Year’s Eve.
There were several middle-aged couples, a group of friends in their 20s, and a woman with her young son.
There were also two lone diners. One was a woman who seemed to be concentrating on her food, or lost in her own thoughts.
The other was a man who looked like he was really enjoying his dinner. At times, there was a hint of a smile on his face. His body language told me that he was eavesdropping on conversations, and found something amusing. I know this because this is something I myself often do in restaurants and coffee shops!
He also had a type of jelly dessert and coffee before he left the restaurant.
Instead of feeling sorry for themselves, these two diners decided to go ahead and do what they felt like doing, despite how they might be seen or perceived by others, on a night associated with social popularity and social excitement in our popular culture.
That night, in the warm glow of the restaurant where people with different individual stories awaited the new year, these two diners illuminated this thought for me: that our attitude ( how we see life and how we take life head on ) begins first with each of us. To quote Dr Phil: “The most important relationship you have is the one you have with yourself.”
I think that it’s only when we begin to celebrate and support our own selves, then we can honor and share that same attitude with others.
I have a feeling that if I were to go back to that same restaurant this New Year’s Eve, I would probably not see these two diners again.
But on a night that started off as a quiet New Year’s Eve dinner, they imparted to me a life lesson that left a profound mark.