Tiger Woods is set to move on beyond his scandal, with his press conference. An intriguing question remains: what are his and Elin’s hopes for the future of their marriage.
From his statement, it looks like Tiger and Elin want to try to make the marriage work. That is admirable, especially considering that they are the parents of two young children. The couple may have all the best marriage counsellors at their disposal, as well as advice from their agents, media consultants, friends and family. But I believe the crucial question they each have to ask themselves is: what do they truly want from the marriage.
"I ran straight through the boundaries that a married couple should live by."
It is not a platitude to say that it takes hard work and commitment to build a fulfilling, happy and stable marriage. Like any relationship, you have to invest time and emotions to get back what you put in. And like any relationship that takes two to tango, there has to be a meeting line where interest, needs, desires and values meet or are on the same wavelength.
Where do these lines meet for these two individuals?
Tiger: not ready for monogamy. Elin: for love or luxury? (Pic: AP)
It appears that Tiger is not ready for monogamy. There is a reason why “open marriages” do not work: monogamy is an essential building block for developing trust and loyalty, two qualities that can cause a marriage to crumble when they are absent.
To start over again, he has to commit to being faithful, despite the temptations and the groupies that will continue to be around him.
Why does Elin really want to stay? Possibly, she still loves him. The issue is whether she can restart from a clean slate and trust him when he’s on tour, away from her. Many women wouldn’t want to be in a relationship where you’re on the edge of suspicion of your partner all the time. Not a conducive way to live, unless she thinks it’s worth hanging around for a bigger divorce payday later on.
My guess is that they would probably stay together, at least for some time. And for what reasons? Only Tiger and Elin know.
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